This week’s book of the week is Emotional Intelligence 2.0 by Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves. It is a small book and short read, but what I like most about it is that it really focuses on getting you to understanding your emotional intelligence (EQ). You find out what level you’re at and then are supplied with resources or directions to take to improve your EQ. Part of this evaluation is taken through a test called the Emotional Intelligence Appraisal. The code for the test is in the back of the book.
What is Emotional Intelligence?
According to Google’s dictionary emotional intelligence is “the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.” As EQ 2.0 talks about, emotional intelligence is not something your are taught in educational settings.
“Emotional awareness and understanding are not taught in school. We enter the workforce knowing how to read, write, and report on bodies of knowledge, but too often, we lack the skills to manage our emotions in the heat of the challenging problems we face. Good decisions require far more than factual knowledge. They are made using self-knowledge and emotional mastery when they’re needed the most.”¹
IQ vs EQ
Many times we not only have trouble understanding our emotions, we can’t even go so far as to accurately name them. “We have so many words to describe the feelings that surface in life, yet emotions are derivations of five core feelings: happiness, sadness, anger, fear, and shame. …Only 36 percent of the people we tested are able to accurately identify their emotions as they happen.”¹
“When something generates a prolonged emotional reaction in you, it’s called a ‘trigger event.’ Your reaction to your triggers is shaped by your personal history, which includes your experience with similar situations.”² These events if we do not adequately understand ourselves or have a high EQ, can get our emotions displaced. And just being smart doesn’t necessarily make you have a deeper understanding of EQ either. “There is no known connection between IQ and EQ; you simply can’t predict EQ based on how smart someone is.”²
I’m very excited about reading this book this week. I can’t wait to share with you my journey through it and what I find out about my EQ. Tomorrow we’ll talk about understanding the four skills of emotional intelligence.
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